How To Change Your Sex Life From So-So To Spicy, With Catalina Garcia, Founder of Bonded

When we invited Catalina, founder of Bonded, onto Unfinished Business, we knew we were in for an enlightening conversation. What we didn't expect was just how much her candid approach to sexuality would resonate with our own experiences as ambitious women juggling careers, relationships, and the countless demands of modern life.

As European transplants in America, both Catalina and Alex immediately connected over the stark cultural differences in how sex is discussed – or rather, not discussed – in the US. Growing up in environments where conversations about pleasure weren't shrouded in shame made it particularly striking to witness the discomfort many Americans feel around the topic. This cultural gap isn't just about comfort levels; it's about empowerment, understanding, and ultimately, living fuller lives.

What really caught our attention was Catalina's insight into how women's sexuality often takes a backseat to career demands and daily responsibilities. The concept of the "brakes and accelerator" system she shared from "Come As You Are" perfectly describes what many of our listeners experience – that mental load of unfolded laundry, upcoming presentations, and family obligations creating an insurmountable barrier to intimacy. It's not about lacking desire; it's about having too many "brakes" engaged to even consider hitting the gas.

But here's what really struck home: the idea that great sex isn't about innate "chemistry" as much as it is about communication, understanding, and intentionality. Just as we schedule our business meetings and workout sessions, Catalina advocates for making intimacy a priority. Her suggestion of monthly "bucket lists" with partners isn't just about spicing things up – it's about creating intentional space for connection in our busy lives.

The conversation took an unexpected turn when we discussed the "orgasm gap" – which, as Catalina pointed out, is twice the size of the wage gap! As women who spend our days empowering others to close professional gaps, this statistic hit hard. It's a powerful reminder that personal fulfillment deserves just as much attention as professional achievement.

One of the most refreshing aspects of our discussion was Catalina's emphasis on self-discovery. Whether it's through reading (yes, even erotic literature!), exploring with toys, or simply getting more comfortable with your own body, understanding what brings you pleasure is the foundation for a fulfilling intimate life. As Lee hilariously noted, even the thought of walking into a sex shop felt daunting – but Catalina's warm, matter-of-fact approach made everything feel more accessible and less intimidating.

For our community of high-achieving women in their late 30s and early 40s, this conversation couldn't be more relevant. We're often experts at managing teams, closing deals, and juggling family responsibilities – but when it comes to prioritizing our pleasure and speaking up about our needs, many of us still struggle to find our voice.

Want to hear more of this candid conversation about sexuality, success, and finding balance in all areas of life? Listen to the full episode of Unfinished Business wherever you get your podcasts. Trust us – this is one conversation you won't want to miss, especially if you've ever felt alone in navigating the intersection of ambition and intimacy.

And remember, as Catalina so perfectly put it – if you've mastered feedback in the bedroom, you're fine in the boardroom. Now that's what we call transferable skills!